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Why is it so hard to ask for what we want? What gets in our way? How can we learn to know what we want, trust in our own desires, and communicate that to others?
I keep exploring these questions as I delve deeper into working with the https://www.schoolofconsent.org/ as a Wheel of Consent Certified Facilitator. The model of the Wheel and the exercises that help us learn about it help us with questions about ‘who is it for’? Who is the gift of our actions for? Is it for me or is it for them? These practices help us discern and tease apart who is doing an action and who is it for. It anchors it in practices that help us notice our wants, trust ourselves that what we want is real, value that we are allowed to want what we want, and to communicate it with clarity.
Where do we practice these skills? I’ll be co-teaching a weekend workshop with my friend and colleague, Max Pearl August 18-20, 2023. Join us!
In this workshop, we will take time to explore how to notice what we want. We will practice naming our desires, honing our senses for feeling ‘yes’ and ‘no’ in our bodies. We’ll practice listening and being listened to. We will wake up our senses together to build trust in ourselves first, and in each other as we communicate. Asking for what we want can feel daunting, and it gets easier with practice. Max and I set a spacious, compassionate container to explore and practice in a low-stakes environment.
or see more about the event on my events page.
Because of who we are as teachers, we offer a space that raises up marginalized voices instead of mostly the default white, western, cis/het voice. We are offering a coalition space (hat-tip to Bernice Johnson Reagon) for practicing and learning the Wheel of Consent. It is a learning space for us to practice together, even when it is uncomfortable, with a vision towards and supporting our shared growth. For this workshop, we will reserve 50% of the participant list for BIPOC registrants in order to fully inhabit that coalition space. (Why are we doing this?)