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Current COVID precautions for in person office visits

As variants of the virus emerge and sweep through, here are some of the protocols I’m following and requirements I have for meeting clients in my office. I will see you in person if you are vaccinated and boosted only. I am vaccinated and boosted, and will continue to update that as needed. I will wear an n95 or a kn95 mask when we meet in person. As long as mask mandates are in place for Dane County, you are required to wear them in the building. I have increased the ventilation in my office with a medical grade air filter (MedifyAir) and have an additional filter running in the waiting room. We can open windows as well. My office is spacious enough for us to be at a distance. We can absolutely discuss any other accommodations.

Online sessions for coaching work are always an option. If you have had an exposure or find yourself having symptoms (or simply not feeling like getting out of the house), please do not come in. We can either work online or reschedule.

This pandemic has been and might continue to be a long haul. Let’s nourish community care through our precautions and find calm and pleasure along the way.

Want to learn more about setting limits and communicating desires? Want to talk about how these COVID precautions are part of embodied consent? Please be in touch!

 

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Wheel of Consent online learning laboratory

 

Why is it so hard to ask for what we want? What gets in our way? How can we learn to know what we want, trust in our own desires, and communicate that to others? 

I keep exploring these questions as I delve deeper into my training with the https://www.schoolofconsent.org/ as a Wheel of Consent Certified Facilitator. The model of the Wheel and the exercises that help us learn about it help us with questions about ‘who is it for’? Who is the gift of our actions for? Is it for me or is it for them? But even before that, how can we notice, trust, value, and communicate what we want?

Where do we practice these skills? I’ll be co-teaching a 6-week online workshop with my friend and colleague, Max Pearl starting in March 2022. Join us!

To register: https://bit.ly/MarchWheelCourse

or see more about the event on my events page

 

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Pricing changes

You may have noticed that I shifted my pricing to include a sliding scale. After many years of charging a flat rate for my work, I wanted to find a way to acknowledge the additional trainings and certifications I’ve gained since starting out. I’m bringing you a greater depth of skills and resources. The cost of living due to inflation has also increased. So while the pricing you are used to will still be available, I’ve included an upper range. As a practice in making choices (a key of much of the consent skills I teach), I invite you to choose, from the heart, where within this range you are able and willing to pay. I still offer a reduced rate for those in need by request.

If you yourself facing challenges in choosing, here is one way to consider it:

For coaching sessions, $150 for a 90 minute session is a sustainable amount for my work. $135 is a discounted amount (if you are only just meeting you own basic financial needs of rent/food/transportation). If you are comfortable in your life and able to have extra above your basic financial needs, I suggest paying higher than the sustainable amount. You help make my work accessible to others! (If you are unable to meet your basic financial needs, please contact me about my limited number of reduced rate slots. Especially for BIPOC, trans/gnc/queer people, people with disabilities)

For bodywork sessions, $200 for a 90 minute session is a sustainable amount for my work. $185 is a discounted amount. If you are in a comfortable place financially, I invite you to pay at a higher rate (beyond $200) to support this scale.

Have questions? Want to talk about embodied ways to wrangle with money? I offer sessions on this, too! Working with money can be hard in similar ways to working with sex/sexuality/pleasure. Many of the skills I can share with you apply and can make your life better. Please be in touch! I love sharing this work with you.

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An event: Creating home in our bodies: gender contentment through mindfulness and movement

I will be co-facilitating this offering on Nov. 6, 2021 with my colleague and friend, Max Pearl. It is specifically for trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming people.

Here’s the description:
As trans and NB/gnc people, we may experience our bodies as a place of conflict, dysphoria or unease. Do you wonder how to attend to and change that? Do you want to find a place of contentment with your body and your gender? Do you want greater access to joy and gender euphoria?

Join us for a day long retreat where we will introduce you to embodied mindfulness, self-compassion, and attending to pleasure. Practicing these can lead us to acceptance of ourselves, making rootedness and pleasure an ordinary experience in our daily lives. We will nourish gender contentment by supporting the movement of our baselines from dysphoria and discomfort towards gender euphoria.

Find out more (including registration link) on the Events page!

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On touch, or why Somatic Sex Education?

Sexological bodywork is a subset of somatic sex education. It is hands-on guidance that allows people to actively learn more about their own sexuality. It is a tool in the toolbox that helps people move to a more embodied sense and knowledge of their erotic self, which we then integrate into the whole self. Touch offered from practitioner to client is the educational and healing tool.

Sexological bodywork is designed and intended to help clients become more in touch with their own erotic self, without the complication of partner engagement or expectation of reciprocation. The focus is on receiving guidance, experience, and on learning how to make direct requests. The hands-on bodywork aspect offers guided touch, consensually agreed upon, to help people create a better relationship with their genitals, tissues of arousal, and sexuality. Information, connection, experience, time to directly experience and metabolize sensation are the first steps towards learning, integrating, and creating new meaning about sexuality.
The key to this touch, as with any kind of touch, is to discern two things: who is the touch for (who acts and who receives the benefit) and what is the purpose of the touch. While it may seem like a false dichotomy in social situations, or in a partnered sexual engagement, in a context with practitioner and client, teacher and student, it is discernment that gives clarity. When touch is unidirectional, for the benefit of the person receiving, it becomes more clear.

It starts with talking. Having a safe place to talk about sex and sexuality, the range of our experiences, question about genitals, health, pleasure, what we actually do, what we think we should or shouldn’t do, is the first offering of spaciousness in a tight world. We then work with the body through breathing exercises, meditation, movement and nervous system self-regulation. These offerings are ways of tuning the instrument of the body. Finding ways to remain present through the cycles of relaxation and arousal are part of the learning, too.

Many of us have never learned to name parts of our bodies. Specificity offers us a freedom. Being able to articulate places that can give us pleasure gives us power. Power over how we access, ask for, and share pleasure with others. If we never learn the names for our parts, some aspect of our power is truncated. Mapping pleasure, through touch and naming at the same time, connecting that cognitive knowledge to sensation, creates new neural pathways. Knowledge, when combined with touch, translates to deep somatic understanding.

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